Your FEAR of him leaving

WILL PUSH HIM AWAY!

LET'S CHANGE THIS.

YOUR DOUBTS, FEARS AND ANXIETY

ARE SURVIVAL RESPONSES

(BASED ON YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES)

AND WILL BE ONLY HEALED,

ONCE YOU GET TO THE

ROOT PROBLEM.

- TO NOT JUST PUT A BANDAGE ON THE WOUND, AND SURVIVE IN THE MOMENT -

HI, IM JULA

WHO CAN HELP YOU GO FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE - IN 4 MONTHS

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IMAGINE...



You're falling asleep feeling warm, at peace and DEEPLY loved next to your partner and dreaming about a bright future...



Instead of how you used to fall asleep: Staring at the ceiling and worrying about your future for HOURS


about if or WHEN he will leave,


* BUT NOW *


YOU KNOW, that it's all going to be okay,

no matter the future.

You feel at peace, reassured and secure.




Instead of waking up with puffy eyes migraines and stomach cramps, you are

* NOW *


You'll be waking up, with a smile on your face. Feeling at ease, fulfilled and ready for anything.



Instead of pacing through your flat and checking his social media, your phone if he texted you for updates on why he is STILL OUT for drinks with his mates

* NOW *


You'll be enjoying the time for yourself. You are having fun, creating the amazing life you love: Because you are not you are worthy and your happiness doesn't depend on him. Plus you simply trust him.


You are ready to start another day of creating memories and being able to enjoy ALL of the little things.


This could be YOUR future, do you know this?



SHHH...A LITTLE BEHIND THE SCENES

INTO MY COACHING PROGRAMS..

⋆°•☁︎MILESTONES ⋆°•☁︎

WE'LL COVER IN MY COACHING...

ᯓ★ to go from anxious to secure attached ᯓ★

Milestone 01 - Emotional Safety

Do you struggle with Trust and Jealousy?


  • After being coached...You'll be able to feel secure at home, whenever you look at your partner's eyes, or when they kiss you goodbye - and NOT to read into every sign, that they will leave you.
Milestone 02 - Self-Esteem + Confidence

Do you struggle with not feeling good enough, feeling unlovable and low self-esteem?


  • After being coached...You'll be able to feel radiant confidence and self-assurance from within - no matter how stunning they are around you - and NOT feel out of place, not good enough and rely on external validation to feel better for a short moment.
Milestone 03 - Interdependency

Do you struggle with knowing who you are outside of your marriage/partnership and overly rely on your partner to feel good?


  • To feel empowered by knowing you can create a life you love outside your marriage - which will skyrocket your confidence - and NOT to put him as the main source of happiness and fuel your fear of being abandoned.
Milestone 04 - Self-Expression

Do you struggle with speaking up authenticly, setting boundaries or communicating assertively, because you're worried others won't like what you say, or being rejected or abandoned?


  • After coaching you'll be able....To fearlessly and assertively express your boundaries, desires and goals with your partner, out of self-love - and NOT worry about what they might say or how they react, or if this might create a conflict.
Milestone 05 - Emotional Resilience

Do you struggle with feeling regulated and bouncing back easily after a conflict, challenge or after being triggered?


  • After coaching you'll be able to...o know how to use your sensitive nervous system as a superpower - and NOT explode by every word or action your partner says and leave you emotionally exhausted.
Milestone 06 - Inner Calm

Do you worry alot about the future, and experience anxiety and doubt, because you think you're only okay when you know everything will be okay, and your partner won't leave?


  • After coaching you'll be able to... feel peace and calm throughout challenges - and NOT feel upset or worried because he is, or because you are missing their reassurance or fixated on red flags.

DID YOU KNOW?

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY + WORRIES have more to do with YOU, than with your partner?


Here is HOW:

Most of my clients are anxiously attached, which is an attachment style based on deep-rooted fears from their PAST, not their PRESENT.

Meaning, you have fears that you will be abandoned or rejected (eventually).


What does this mean?


It means you get triggered in your current marriage (or relationship) by things your partner says or does,


which triggers your core wound:

Like "They will leave";

"You're not good enough"

"You are not the priority"



DID YOU KNOW?

YOU are PUSHING your partner away - through sabotaging actions.

Like:

By being "too much"; "too needy" or "too clingy" in your partner's eyes:


Because you haven't learned to fulfil your needs through other ways and believe your partner is your HAPPINESS source NR. 1.

By letting your emotions overwhelm you so that control your reactions and you explode or don't use the right approach:


Because you don't believe you are good enough to put yourself first and prioritise soothing your nervous system.

By acting on your relationship anxiety seeing "RED FLAGS" everywhere and being in survival mode 24/7:


Because your brain thinks you are in danger and about to be abandoned, so it wants to keep you safe.

By subconsciously not believing you are good enough, worthy or lovable:

And letting these insecurities get in the way of building a foundation of trust and confidence:


Because you have a limiting belief of "not being good enough" you will always have evidence for your beliefs.


DID YOU KNOW?

You will NEVER find a SECURE partner until you heal your abandonment wound.

= In other words, the grass is not greener on the other side (because it's fake, or the gardener learned skills you don't learn at school.)


SO:

You simply need to learn how to water your grass better.

The reason why you keep attracting partners who don't commit is that YOUR abandonment fears.

You attract partners who YOU have to chase and who are triggering your fears.

The reason is that we attract what's familiar.

And your abandonment fear is familiar a piece from your childhood and a repeated thought you had over and over again: Until it turned into a belief.


YOUR FEAR + BELIEFS ARE THE REASON


WHY YOU HAVE RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY

WHY YOUR MIND IS RACING FOR RED FLAGS

WHY YOU ARE ALWAYS ON SURVIVAL MODE



BUT YOU CAN CHANGE.

YOU ARE NOT AN ANXIOUS PERSON.

YOU ARE SIMPLY A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN

WHO EXPERIENCES ANXIETY BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T CHANGED YOUR BELIEFS,

AND RUNNING ON AN "OLD" PROGRAM.

THE REASON HE WILL EVENTUALLY LEAVE IS...


BECAUSE BELIEFS BECOME TRUE, ALWAYS.


OUR BELIEFS BECOME OUR SELF-PROFILLING PROPHECY.


BECAUSE OUR BRAIN WILL ONLY ABLE TO FOCUS ON THE EVIDENCE FOR OUR BELIEFS,

- AND OVERLOOK THE COUNTEREVIDENCE, NO MATTER HOW STRONG -

BECAUSE THAT IS A WAY TO PRESERVE ENERGY: WHICH IS OUR SURVIVAL METHOD.


Even LIMITED BELIEFS COME TRUE, like:


"I am not good enough"

"When will he leave me?"

"How can I ever trust him fully?"


Limited beliefs are NOT true but are based on past experiences.

However, they FEEL SO TRUE,

even when we consciously know they are not true.


LET'S OVERCOME YOUR FEARS + RE-WRITE NEW BELIEFS TOGETHER


SO YOU'LL FINALLY...

STOP FEELING ANXIOUS + DOUBTING

  • Your partner's feelings, words and actions.
  • Your worth and if you are good enough.
  • Your relationship stability.
START FEELING SECURE + LOVED
  • Say YES, to trusting your partner's words.
  • Say YES, to feeling loved to your core.
  • Say YES, to creating INNER peace.

IS THIS YOU?

Do you...

  • ...feel doubt, suspicious, or insecure about your partner and relationship?
  • ...struggle with self-doubt, always wanting approval?
  • ...always seeking validation and reassurance but can't get enough?
  • ...hype aware of your partner's emotions, moods of fear you can't rest until he is okay?
  • ...feel like you're on an emotional roller-coaster ride leaving you drained and exhausted?
  • ...have a sensitive nervous system and no way to regulate it, so you react instead of respond to your partner?
  • ...have a LOUD inner critic always thinking of the worst case?
  • ...feel overwhelmed by anxiety, worries and overthinking?
  • ...struggle to share your needs and set boundaries because you can't stand conflict or rejection?

DO YOU WANT TO STEP INTO YOUR FUTURE YOU INSTEAD?

The power of ONE coaching session

So that...

  • You will be able to be more present with your partner (+ kids)
  • You will feel safe, secure and stable
  • You will be at ease, calm, and at peace - without worrying about an uncertain future
  • You will be more connected and feel deeply loved
  • You will feel more seen, validated and reassured
  • You will feel loved, worthy, good enough, and lovable
  • You will be unafraid of setting boundaries or wishes without worrying about consequences
  • You will be unstoppable and empowered: Knowing you can create change and are unafraid of emotions or him leaving
  • You'll find yourself, and show up as your authentic you because you don't need to hide yourself anymore or people to survive
  • You can show up as your best version: So you can respond and not react
  • You will have the capacity to cope and overcome any challenge ahead
  • You will be fulfilled and put yourself first
  • Able to think clearly, without being driven by fear

SO, THEN...

★ GET COACHED BY ME: ★

  • I'll help you to STOP your relationship DOUBTS and anxiety by OVERCOMING your abandonment FEARS - the ROOT cause of why you pushing your partner away.
  • Learn the power attachment theory and how your wounds show up in your relationships
  • Get introduced to a choaching style inspired by the GOTTMAN APROACH (studies of hunderts of marriages) AND CBT therapy (Cognitive Behavioral therapy) - a truely empowering, proven approach based on your thoughts, emotions and actions.
  • WITHOUT pushing your partner away due to your fears
  • WITHOUT being "clingy", "needy" or feel disempowered
  • WITHOUT having your partner be involved
  • WITHOUT years in therapy
  • WITHOUT working on the survival level effects of your fears only
  • WITHOUT passing your insecurities and fears onto your next generations


I help you awaken your inner MAGIC,

empowering you to create a life and marriage that truly feels like HOME, regardless of what comes your way.

WOULD YOU LIKE TO...?

TRUST AGAIN

  • To feel safe and secure
  • To not self-sabotage your marriage
  • To feel inner peace
  • To overcome the fear of being left
  • To improve communication + conflict resolution
  • To greater intimacy
  • To shift towards a more secure attachment

RAISE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

  • To be more independent (less "clingy +needy")
  • To take the pressure off your partner
  • To boost your confidence
  • To overcome the fear of being left
  • To improve self-image, reduce self-doubt
  • To shift towards a more secure attachment

MANAGE EMOTIONS

  • To not let little things blow up into big things
  • To not feel drained + exhausted
  • To stop the emotional roller coaster ride
  • To reduce dependency on partner
  • To increase better decision-making
  • To improve self-regulation
  • To manage conflicts better + express needs
  • To shift towards a more secure attachment

So you can be fully present in your relationships. So you doubt other people's love.

To no longer be in survival but THRIVE.

To not be afraid all the TIME!


Let's create relationships based on trust, not scarcity.


HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT...?

"

"I wish my partner could reassure me that he will be there for me, always"

"Does he love me or is he just settling? Am I settling?"

"Why are they so defensive and so emotionally distant?!"

"I wish I knew how to handle jealousy and build trust in our relationship."

"Why do I always compare myself to everyone else?"

"Whenever my partner is upset, I'm on edge too."

"I wish I knew how to express my needs and worries

without fearing it would drive my partner away."

"Why does love hurt so much? I am drained and exhausted...just numb."

"I don't know if I'll ever truly feel secure and loved in my relationship."

"I can't help but think that my partner will eventually realize I'm not good enough for them."

"I'm always anxious about my partner leaving."

"I can't stop overthinking everything."

"Things should not be this difficult"

"We are just too different"

"

I get it.

Really.

I never thought I was good enough to even be in a relationship. My doubts followed me all my life.

Feeling worried about being left, not heard, drained, and feeling hopeless.

Feeling NOBODY loves you as much as you love them - HURTS.

I felt like I was trying everything in my power, while he was moving further away.

So frustrating.


But it doesn't have to be this hard.


You don't have to struggle alone in this.

Accepting help can be much easier than you think it is.


It took me 30+ years.

Which I can teach you now in only 4 months.


At school, we just haven't been taught:

How to connect with people.

How to be in a loving, healthy relationship.

How to attach to people in a healthy way.

How to be alone without feeling alone.

How to handle challenging situations.

How to regulate emotions.

How to handle conflicts without cycling back to them over and over again

HI, I'M JULA

My game-changing S.P.E.A.K. MODEL helps clients recognize and overcome self-sabotaging behaviours for a more secure marriage.

Plus I have developed the F.A.R.E. FRAMEWORK to overcome your fears long-term and create new beliefs, that lead to transformative relationships.

My coaching is based on 2 solid, research-based approaches:

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and The Gottman Approach provide science-backed strategies for lasting change.


BUT this is NOT living.

Everything that took me 30+ years to realise, I can teach you within 4 months.


I wish my family had access to these tools, offering hope and healing to those facing similar challenges, after seeing my mum left broken after the divorce of my dad (she is also team: ""anxiously attached"").


In a nutshell: my approach is concise, relatable, and science-based, tailored to individuals seeking stronger more secure marriages.

HOW DOES IT WORK?

BOOK A CALL

  • Enter your name + email in the booking form.
  • You will be forwarded to my CALENDLY booking page, where you can choose your time slot for our call.

ATTEND THE CALL

  • Chat with Jula, The Marriage Coach, to share your story, struggles and goals. This call helps us understand your situation and allows you to see how we can help.
  • Together we can decide if our program is right for you.
  • I will only match you with my offers, if they are a 100% fit.

START YOUR TRANSFORMATION

  • If we both decide you are the right fit for my program: WELL DONE. *TimeToCelebrate
  • Receive a welcome package and email with the next steps
  • Fill out our intake form
  • Sign the contract
  • Process the payments

And your JOURNEY can begin!

REMEMBER,

CHANGE IN RELATIONSHIP

STARTS WITH YOU.


THOUGHT BY THOUGHT,

ACTION BY ACTION.

I WILL HELP YOU TO

TRANSFORMATION

the 6 abandonment fear effects.

BESIDES FROM ADDRESSING

YOUR FEARS + BELIEFS

AT THE ROOTS

(FOR A LONG-LASTING TRANSFORMATION),

AND REWIRE YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND T FOR NEW BELIEFS,

WE WILL ALSO

-01-

TRUST + EMOTIONAL SAFETY

IS THIS YOU?

  • Do you trust your partner?
  • Do you worry about what your partner is up to often?
  • Are you easily jealous?
  • Are you feeling emotionally safe?

IF NOT TRANSFORM THIS AREA

  • Solution: To feel secure at home, whenever you look into your partner's eyes or when they kiss you goodbye.
  • ➳ and NOT to read into every sign that they will leave you.

-02-

= LOW SELF WORTH

+ LOW SELF ESTEEM

IS THIS YOU?

  • Do you feel loveable and good enough?
  • Do you easily receive love, compliments and help?
  • Do you compare yourself to others?
  • Are you seeking a lot of reassurance and validation?

IF NOT TRANSFORM THIS AREA

  • Solution: To feel radiant confidence and self-assurance from within - no matter how stunning they are around you
  • ➳ and NOT feel out of place, not good enough and rely on external validation to feel better for a short moment.

-03-

INTERDEPENDENCY

IS THIS YOU?

  • Do you have a strong tendency to be around your partner most of the time - and feel lonely without them?
  • Do you plan your time around your partner and prioritise their needs over your own?
  • Do you ask your partner for their opinion first, mould your identity around your partners and don’t have a strong sense of self?

IF NOT TRANSFORM THIS AREA

  • Solution: To feel empowered by knowing you can create a life you love outside your marriage - which will skyrocket your confidence
  • ➳ and NOT to put him as the main source of happiness and fuel your fear of being abandoned.

-04-

ASSERTIVE SELF-EXPRESSION

IS THIS YOU?

  • Do you sometimes hold back or worry about the consequences of your words, needs or wishes?
  • Do you struggle with setting or being consequent with your boundaries and worry about not being like or creating conflict and being too strict?
  • Do you people-please and rather avoid your authentic true opinion to avoid mental stress?

IF NOT TRANSFORM THIS AREA

  • Solution: To fearlessly and assertively express your boundaries, desires and goals with your partner, out of self-love
  • ➳ and NOT worry about what they might say how they react, or if this might create a conflict.

-05-

EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE

IS THIS YOU?

  • Do you have a sensitive nervous system and go through extreme emotional ups and downs without knowing how to handle strong emotions?
  • Do you push your emotions away and neglect self-care?
  • Are you worried about being too weak to handle conflict?
  • Is your freeze activated when being triggered? (You a daydreamer, often in another world, shut down when flooded, then procrastinate, you are disconnected from your feelings and are running on autopilot)
  • Is your fawn response activated (you people please to service, you're a perfectionist, you apologise a lot and downplay your strengths, and sacrifice your own needs over others) when being triggered?

IF NOT TRANSFORM THIS AREA

  • Solution: To know how to use your sensitive nervous system as a superpower and learn to regulate it.
  • ➳ and NOT explode by every word or action your partner says and leave you emotionally exhausted.

-06-

INNER CALM

IS THIS YOU?

  • Do you worry, catastrophize or mind-read often about what your partner might do or think?
  • Do you jump easily to conclusions and think worst worst-case scenarios to calm down your inner critic?
  • Do you have a loud inner critic and feel like you can only be at peace once you get the reassurance from your partner that you are safe, they won’t leave and love you deeply - forever?

IF NOT TRANSFORM THIS AREA

  • Solution: To feel peace and calm throughout challenges.
  • ➳ and NOT feel upset or worried because he is, or because you are missing their reassurance or fixated on red flags.


QUESTIONS

YOU OFTEN ASK US

"I'm unsure if individual coaching can be effective when my partner isn't taking part."

Creating a Ripple Effect:

I totally get it. Individual coaching is about you becoming your best self. It's like planting a seed of positive change. As you grow, your marriage can transform too. Positive change in one partner often inspires the other to join in. Your journey breathes new life into your marriage. I am living proof, that this works!


Investing in Yourself:

Sometimes, focusing on yourself is necessary. It's investing in skills for life, not just marriage. You'll feel better in any relationship and respond more positively to anything. This newfound strength benefits both you and your marriage.


Starting with Accountability:

Waiting for change won't help. Taking the first step empowers you. Don't wait for years. Your happiness is worth taking charge. Becoming your best self creates a solid foundation for your marriage.

"My schedule is already packed. How can I possibly find time for this?"

The Marriage Coach:

Flexibility:

The program is designed with YOUR schedule in mind, offering manageable steps, being able to work with your busy schedule in mind, able to have weekly, biweekly calls or working around unregular calendars.


Less stress long-term:

Prioritizing this now can lead to smoother times ahead and less stress overall.


Small Efforts, Big Impact:

Allocating even a small or even micro amount of time to your relationship's well-being can yield long-term benefits. It is proven to create habits, that are beneficial to create change, all is needed to start with micro habits.

"I'm worried that I'll put in all this effort, and my partner will still reject me."

The Marriage Coach:

Boosting Your Confidence:

I get your fear. Picture this journey boosting your confidence – no matter the outcome. You'll gain the strength to handle anything on your own, during the program and beyond. With our tools and your learned confidence, you'll be ready to face challenges head-on. Even if it’s something you can’t imagine right now.


Creating a Stronger You: Your worries are real and I hear you. By letting go of clinginess and learning to value yourself, you're building a stronger foundation. This doesn't just improve your well-being but also sets the stage for healthier relationship dynamics.


Building Bridges: It's natural to worry, but think about this: as you grow personally, you might stop behaviours that push your partner away. Before you might have self-sabotaged your relationship and pushed your partner away (at least emotionally) - this might stop, when you learn to stand on your own two feet. This creates a chance for better interactions and a closer bond. It’s kind of like a Frispy, you toss it away and comes naturally back because you give “it” freedom ;)

"I'm uncomfortable opening up about my feelings and being vulnerable."

Your Comfort First:

I understand it might be hard for some to talk about feelings. Remember, we begin with topics that feel easier for you to talk about. Coaching is all about YOU. Plus, there's no pressure to rush. You decide when and how much you share. It's a process tailored to your comfort.


Empowerment + Solution-Focused:

Your feelings are valid. Opening up isn't a sign of weakness. Our coaching approach is solution-focused and future-oriented. We're here to help you find constructive ways to navigate challenges, not just dig into past wounds (unless you want to for some moments)


Building Trust:

I appreciate your concern. Vulnerability is a choice, and we respect that. Our coaching is about finding solutions for the present and the future. It's not about dwelling on past pain. You're in control of what you discuss, at your own pace.

"I'm worried that the coaching process will be overwhelming and too much to handle."

Tailored to You:

I understand your concern. Our coaching process is uniquely tailored to you. We always check in with all our clients between sessions and get your feedback. This way we can reduce the speed or adjust the intensity of sessions for example, ensuring you have more time for practising between them or making it more comforting for our clients, to ensure the process is smooth.


Manageable Steps:

Our coaching breaks down into manageable steps. Your pace matters, and we're here to adjust according to your needs. You won't be overwhelmed. And if you do, simply let us know and we find a way, that works for you.


Stress-Reduction Focus:

Our coaching isn't about stress but rather about reducing it. We incorporate anxiety and stress-releasing tasks and tools to help you navigate challenges more effectively.

"I'm worried that coaching will make me revisit painful past experiences."

No trauma work - Not Past focused:

I understand your worry. The coaching process isn't about reliving past traumas. If traumas or painful memories are holding you back from reaching your goal during coaching, then the coach would need to stop the coaching journal and be better off in therapy, who is trained for trauma work, and who can heal you.


Future-focused:

Our coaching is forward-focused, not about dwelling on the past. We're here to help you develop strategies that lead to positive changes in your relationship today and moving forward. We take you from A to B and give you the transformation you deserve!


Not Therapy, But Progress:

I respect your efforts to heal. Coaching with us is different from therapy – we're not here to dig into past wounds, only for small moments. Our primary goal is to guide you in building a stronger, more fulfilling relationship using practical tools and strategies.

"I'm concerned that I won't be able to afford the coaching program."

Investing in Your Relationship:

Our happy guarantee means you can request a refund at ANY time during the program, for the entire last 4 weeks, even at the very end.


Meaning, you can start, and after 4 coaching sessions (or voxer), you can get your entire money back, or you can request a refund at the end of the program and get 4 weeks' worth of money back. The risk is minimal, and you're in control.


Your Past Investments:

Consider this: the average cost of a wedding in the US is around $28,000 (and in the UK, about £16,000). Now, think about the emotional and financial investment you've made in events like weddings and anniversaries. How much have you invested already, not adding all the emotional investment throughout the years?


Investing in Your Future:

Now think about investing in creating a happier, healthier relationship. The value of happiness is immeasurable. Statistically, divorce costs can be as high as around $15,000 to $20,000 in the US and £14,561 in the UK. Preventing future costs like divorce and emotional pain is worth more than this program's investment. Your investment here isn't just monetary; it's an investment in a brighter future and a happier you.


Flexible Payment Options:

I totally understand your concern. We offer flexibility in payment – you can pay in one go or choose a monthly plan that suits your budget. It's about making it as comfortable as possible for you.


Referral Voucher:

I've got something exciting to share! When you join our coaching program, you get the chance to earn 15% back., for every referral (above £1.3K)

How? Simply refer someone who signs up for the (paid) program. It's a way for you to not only invest in your relationship but also potentially benefit financially through referrals. You're not alone in this journey, and there's more than one way to make your investment worthwhile.

"Change seems promising, but I'm not sure I'm the right person for it. Can this program make a difference?"

The Marriage Coach:

Empowerment: Yes, it can! Every individual, including YOU, deserves 100% the opportunity to grow and thrive in their relationships and to empower themselves.


Empowering: You deserve care and growth. Doubting your worth is common, but The Marriage Coach is here to empower you and to step outside your comfort zone, too.


Courage + Success: You're more than enough, and seeking support shows your courage. Our methods have proven successful, and taking this step can open doors to a more fulfilling relationship.

"What if I invest and it is not worth it? How do I know, I get the help I need?" Phrases:

Guaranteed Satisfaction:

I understand the apprehension. That's why we offer a guarantee – you can request a refund at ANY time during the program, for the last 4 weeks, which gives you enough time to decide if the coaching is worth the value. We want you to feel secure in your investment.


Happiness - Guaranteed:

This is the 2nd HUGE BONUS, is give you, to assure you, that you get your value, and I help you. Our guarantees ensure your investment is protected. We're confident in our coaching process and its effectiveness. This Happiness Guarantee entitles you to get coaching sessions UNTIL you have reached your goal! Meaning should you have not reached it yet, by the end of the program, I will continue coaching you, until you do! Wow, right?


Rock-Solid Proven Approach:

It's natural to want assurance. Let me tell you, our coaching is designed with results in mind, and not just based on personal experience. That’s why our coaching is built on two solid methods – CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) which is an approach that analyses our thoughts and actions, to get your results in life and Gottman's studies. The Gottmans are top relationship researchers. They've studied thousands of couples to discover the keys to lasting love. Their methods are scientifically proven and practical, making them ideal for coaching. They focus on connection, communication, and understanding emotions.

"I've tried relationship advice before, and it didn't work. Why should this be any different?"

Root-Cause Approach:

What makes our coaching truly powerful is our laser focus on the root causes that fuel your anxiously attached behaviours: the abandonment fear. While others might address the surface stuff like overthinking, overanalysing, worrying, anxious thoughts, jealousy, and trust issues, insecurities, doubt, being clingy, needy, constantly seeking reassurance and validation, we go deeper – delving into the hidden fears that drive all these behaviours. Fixing the core leads to real and lasting changes in all areas.


Personal Experience:

Just so you know, I've walked this journey too. I have learned the hard way, shifting toward a more secure style. I've grappled with my own fears of being left and the challenges of an anxious attachment style. I've danced with the difficulties of understanding my avoidant partner, stepping on his toes. And yes, even ended up pushing him away – which was my worst fear. Through my own path, I've felt the isolation, the “pain”, and the exhaustion. But shifting from “this all happens to me” to “I can make this happen” is so freeing! This experience fuels me to guide you toward your own empowerment – showing you that you can create change, without solely depending on your partner.


Learning from the Past:

Your past efforts show your commitment to improving your relationship. Our coaching takes those experiences into account. It builds on what you've learned and adds powerful, new techniques to your toolbox.


New Perspective:

Sometimes, a fresh perspective can shake things up. Our blend of CBT and Gottman studies offers you new ways of thinking and acting – methods that have transformed thousands of lives before. Combine these proven approaches with my unique coaching style, and you've got a recipe for success. Remember, there's no long-term commitment needed. You can ask for your money back within the last 4 weeks or keep getting coached until your challenges are conquered.

"I'm worried that coaching will make me revisit painful past experiences."

No trauma work - Not Past focused:

I understand your worry. The coaching process isn't about reliving past traumas. If traumas or painful memories are holding you back from reaching your goal during coaching, then the coach would need to stop the coaching journal and be better off in therapy, who is trained for trauma work, and who can heal you.


Future-focused:

Our coaching is forward-focused, not about dwelling on the past. We're here to help you develop strategies that lead to positive changes in your relationship today and moving forward. We take you from A to B and give you the transformation you deserve!


Not Therapy, But Progress:

I respect your efforts to heal. Coaching with us is different from therapy – we're not here to dig into past wounds, only for small moments. Our primary goal is to guide you in building a stronger, more fulfilling relationship using practical tools and strategies.

"I'm afraid that if I open up, I'll be criticized or looked down upon. There is dark stuff to explore."

Non-Judgmental Support:

I understand your worry. I am trained to be non-judgmental and also not take any sides between partners. You can express yourself without criticism. We don't take sides; we're here to understand and empower you.


Valuing Your Voice:

We value your thoughts and feelings. Our coaching process is about listening, learning, and offering guidance without any negative judgment. Our goal is to empower you.

"I'm uncomfortable opening up about my feelings and being vulnerable."

Your Comfort First:

I understand it might be hard for some to talk about feelings. Remember, we begin with topics that feel easier for you to talk about. Coaching is all about YOU. Plus, there's no pressure to rush. You decide when and how much you share. It's a process tailored to your comfort.


Empowerment + Solution-Focused:

Your feelings are valid. Opening up isn't a sign of weakness. Our coaching approach is solution-focused and future-oriented. We're here to help you find constructive ways to navigate challenges, not just dig into past wounds (unless you want to for some moments)


Building Trust:

I appreciate your concern. Vulnerability is a choice, and we respect that. Our coaching is about finding solutions for the present and the future. It's not about dwelling on past pain. You're in control of what you discuss, at your own pace.